Randy Inman
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Woman cited for spanking her child
July 20th 2008 22:31
A mother in Idaho was cited for spanking her child in public.
Several witnesses thought she was too difficult on her 2-year-old during a parade and called for police.
The mother claims that the child was trying to run into the street and was not listening. She says she gave her a swat on the diaper to get her attention.
Officers said that there were no marks on the child, but cited the woman anyway and she now has to appear in court.
No matter what your personal opinion is of spanking, it is not illegal. The harmfulness of non-injuring spanking is in question as we are now seeing the results of the first generation to rebuke it as a tool for discipline. With no physical injury to the child and mental injury a questionable topic, there is no justification for a decision such as this.
Several witnesses thought she was too difficult on her 2-year-old during a parade and called for police.
The mother claims that the child was trying to run into the street and was not listening. She says she gave her a swat on the diaper to get her attention.
No matter what your personal opinion is of spanking, it is not illegal. The harmfulness of non-injuring spanking is in question as we are now seeing the results of the first generation to rebuke it as a tool for discipline. With no physical injury to the child and mental injury a questionable topic, there is no justification for a decision such as this.
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Comment by Damo
Do I go to prison?
Comment by Josie
thanks for reading Damo!
Comment by Damo
These stories often just crack me.
There is whole world out there of people acting like dictators over children are not their own. It is more of a revenge thing in some cases.
Comment by Confusion at Random
I have encountered children who are very uncooporative that I have seen them get spanked. In regards to those children, I have never seen spanking actually work as a form of punishment.
I think time-out's are more effective.
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Comment by Lester Caudill
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I do not support child abuse in any way, I have seen the results of it. When I was a child I went to school with a brother and sister that were living with their grandparents, they would come to school with welts on their backs, now that was child abuse.
Comment by TimmyH
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They all need to be spanked...getting rid of the cane in school was the worst idea in the history of Australian Education!!!
Comment by Josie
As a parent, it really stinks to think that somebody is always watching and listening to you- judging you.
Comment by Lester Caudill
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Comment by Bethany
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But a woman in Idaho gets a ticket for doing something non-injurious that nobody could prove.
I'm gonna go sit in the tub for a little while, I think.
Comment by RubySoho
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Oh the irony! The irony! The irony!
Just a wacky thought, but why don't we see how this story pans out before we slam the eight witnesses who say the mother was too harsh on the kid and the authorities who are just trying to look out for the children? Think of the children everybody. After all, I'm sure that toddler wasn't able to give her consent to being smacked around by her mother who could probably do well to pick on someone her own size.
Comment by Josie
One problem I've seen a bit of lately is that everyone wants to give their opinions on how others should be raising their children and like Lester said, these people usually don't have children of their own. It is much easier to be an imaginary parent than a real one.
As far as this story in particular...If you've ever been around a toddler you would know that they get bruises and red marks very easily. My daughter can literally run into the soft couch and have a red mark on her head. If there was no red mark on the child as indicated by the officer, I highly doubt that the swat was worthy of a call to the police.
What concerns me is that now it will be a story of 8 vs 1 where those 8 people may have been one group together who are like minded about spanking- 8 people who are potentially wrong about how severe the situation was. If this parent loses her children over the opinions of others when there was no real injury, I find it very sad. I'm curious to know if there were witnesses in the audience that would speak for the mother? With a huge crowd for a parade, I would imagine that more than 8 people were around...
Comment by Anonymous
The misled brain and the banned emotions
The Facts:
1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.
2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.
3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)
Questions and Answers:
Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?
A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.
Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?
A: We can - at least to some degree - liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can't retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.
Conclusion:
Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.
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